How to tell my wife about my fetish

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Re: How to tell my wife about my fetish

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I finally registered on this site after a while and it feels good. I have an issue to share that is quite similar. My girlfriend of 8 months so far, does not wear a watch or jewlery. I would however like to get her to start wearing a watch, more preferably the white ceramic ones that have recently become more popular. I don't know how to approach the situation to either just get her one, or ask if she would wear one if anything. I'm not sure I'm ready to tell her my fetish yet, so how would I come to deal with this? Any suggestions?
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Re: How to tell my wife about my fetish

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Nice stories, and good to hear most of you have been open about your fetish and it has been well accepted.
I have shared my thoughts in this thread aswell: http://www.watchgirls.net/forum/viewtop ... f=7&t=1936 but this is a great thread so I'll comment:

To decide whether to tell you GF about your fetish or not, is a compromise. There's always the risk she will find it so weird that it will affect your relationship in a negative way. Then again, read "HoppysFetish" post (the second post in the thread, great story!). In that case sharing his fetish was a very positive thing. Guess it depends a lot on the girl in question aswell. Is she a tolerant, open-minded person, or the complete opposite?

I've had several long-lasting relationships, including an eight year marriage. I also have a variety of different fetishes. Some very innocent, like watches and hair fashion, some... not so innocent :oops:
I have been open about most of these fetishes with all of the girls. All of the "innocent" fetishes have all been accepted very well, especially my watch fetish because none of them were "watch-persons" when I met them (not in a sense they did not like to wear watches in general, they just didn't care that much about it). When I told them I'd like them to wear a watch and I'd be happy to give them one or more, everyone was happy. My current GF has about six watches by now!

As for the more "non-innocent" fetishes, it depends. How much would it mean to you, in regards to the relationship, to be able to share the fetish with her? Or would it be better if you kept it to yourself?
An example: let's pretend you get off on women wearing something special or "slutty", like latex for example. Is your GF the kind of person who'd want to wear something like that in bed? Do you dare to ask her right out?
In many cases, probably not. But, how would you know?
Well, it's not that hard to get at least some clue. With regards to slutty clothes, you see girls wearing it all the time in music videos, TV-shows, magazines and - obviously - porn movies/magazines. If you watch these together, comment on it without going "all in" so to speak. Don't tell her "oooh, I would love to see/do you in something like that!" Instead, say something like: "hmm, that's kinda hot... what do you think?" That's all. Now, she may reply: "urgh, not my thing, it's so slutty!" Okay, then you probably ain't gonna get her to wear it - period! :D But, she may say "hmm... I don't know... why do you ask?" Meaning, she's curious. That's a GOOD thing! Or, in a perfect world she'd say: "I think it's hot... would you like me to wear something like that for you, you dirty boy?" Needles to say, you're golden.

Point is, you never know if you don't tell her about your fetish, one way or the other. With a fetish like the one we all share on this forum, it's not a big deal. If she doesn't wear a watch at all, ask her why. If she wears a watch, but you'd want her to wear something else, show her the type of watch in question and ask her what she thinks. If she likes it, get it for her, and when she wears it, tell her she looks hot. Chicks LOVE being told when they're hot. If you want her to wear the watch in bed, you could bang here right there before she manage to take it off, or start a conversation about sex and what makes you tick (you should, regardless, early in any relationship!).

Rightwrist wrote this earlier in the thread:
rightwrist wrote:You could ask her when you are just before or after making sex, what she would do if you told her you had a "weird" fetish? By telling that, she maybe thinks you are into really weird stuff and if you tell her then you have a watch fetish she prolly find it ok...
I think that's a great suggestion, because in this situation "anything goes". You're both in the mood, and it's way easier to discuss it now instead of over the dinner table.

The one thing everyone should remember tho, is the fact that we're all different. What works for you may not work for your partner, and we have to accept and respect that. Try to look at it from your partners perspective: If my GF told me she has a thing for chickens, and would love it if I wore a chicken costume when we had sex, I'd politely decline! :D But if she never told me about her "weird" fetish she'd be left with having to secretly watch videos on "www.chickensuitsex.com" (no, that doesn't exist - yet!) or share pics with others on some forum - exactly like we do! And at the end of the day, you'd have to be okay with that, if you don't like her fetish (or don't know about it). Point being, by all means DO tell your partner about your fetish, but if she doesn't want to share it with you, DON'T try to force it on her. You'll always have sites like this to satisfy you.

Just my 2 cents... would love to continue this discussion, very interesting topic!
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